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I feel really lost:

Feeling lost means that you are dealing with change, new experiences, new emotions, new expectations, and a new reality. When are encountering new challenges repeatedly it can feel like you are doing something wrong.  You may even feel like you are creating these situations.  You may be, but that does not mean that you shouldn’t be.  Be strong, each challenge will teach you something new.

I don’t like what I used to like:

As you experience change, it makes sense for you to be increasingly dissatisfied with your reality.  Once you recognize the source of your dissatisfaction, begin to implement micro habits.  Small adjustments to your life, will take away feelings of stress, and allow you to feel progression towards your goals.

Can I go back to the good ‘ole days?

It is common for people to not like change.  I have always found this very strange.  Even though familiarity is comforting, the mundane can also be very boring. Often being in a bad situation will feel better than doing the work to change it. You will often want to quit, but don’t. When life gets hard or complex, those are the times you need to do your best to stick with your process.

What do I do now?

It is completely normal to dread the future.  You have taken everything that you do normally and remixed it. You feel like you don’t know what to do next, and that is scary. It’s normal to feel scared, but that does not mean that it is OK to stand still.  Get your hustle on, make notes about where you want to be, and make it happen.

Why the hell are we still friends:

So far you have questioned your life, and your circumstances.  The next logical step is to figure out why associate with some and not others.  The people in our lives can be our support system or they can be our hurdle.  Your job is to find out which slot each of the people you know fit into.  Once you have made those choice, it is time to bench some folks, permanently. Remind yourself, basic folks only understand basic shit. If you are the only one growing, they will not understand your journey, and that is OK.  You don’t have to fall out with them, just lose touch for a while.

Being alone is OK and necessary:

Changing your situation is hard, and a lot of work.  It will take a toll on you emotionally and physically.  During this time, it is really important that you have some sort of exercise routine, and a healthier diet.  Odds are, you are not going to be fun to be around all the time.  If you schedule time to be alone on purpose, you will minimize the impact to those who are most important to you.



I didn’t think that it would come to this:

This point is probably the most crucial.  Eventually you will arrive at the point when you review the romantic relationships that you sustain.  Let’s assume that you are in a solid relationship and the other person is on board with your remodel.  This means that you can move on to your next task. If this is not the case, you should speak with a certified counselor before you permanently alter your life romantically. Make sure that you are completely clear about what you want out of your relationships.

I am doing good, why the hell am I so sad:

You cannot change your life in a significant way without experiencing loss.  The loss may be minimal, or it may be great.  This could be as simple as quitting smoking or, trading in a car you can’t afford.  You will feel this loss, and that’s OK.  The important part of this change is to get what you came for.  Don’t mourn the loss of things that were not good for you.  Letting go is hard not impossible

You know we don’t get down like that:

Now that you have decided, once and for all, that you are not here for the B.S., you will be more likely to express that to others.  Every time anyone does something that you don’t like it’s not necessary to call them out on it.  It is completely OK for you walk away from a confrontation.  You don’t have to feel like they got over on you.  Stop acting up and realize that if you are everything that you think that you are, you don’t have to prove it to anyone. 90% this is the case.  Please use the last 10% sparingly.


  1. Good read this really reaches home for me I will definitely try to not allow myself to get in the away of my own progress. I think the most natural thing to do is to have the last word just so it doesn’t seem like anyone has gotten over on you but in fact who cares what they think. Protect your own peace and let them have it. It does no good arguing with an indiot anyways.

  2. This is a very good and helpful read. I agree with you when you mentioned the alone time. Alone time is very crucial for your personal growth and development. I think it helps you find yourself and discover what you really want out of life which you so eloquently stated. The alone time can also help you put yourself back together again both mentally and physically. Very good read.

    1. I’m really glad you enjoyed it. You sometimes it can come off sort of preachy but the goal is to share tools for growth. Thanks for reading!!

  3. This is a lot of truth! I’ve found myself more thankful for those uncomfortable times of transition more lately. They are what God uses to shape me into the person I would like to be.

    1. I would have to agree with you. If things had gone like I wanted from the beginning, I would have missed learning moments and meeting great people.

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